Now that January is half over (whaaa???) I’m finally ready to take a look at last year’s list. Here’s a quick rundown of all my “goals” and whether I accomplished them or not. Feel free to skip past that part, though, because 1) it’s not very impressive and 2) I’ve got some thoughts on why that doesn’t bother me at all.
- Go on a vacation sans babies: Done.
- Visit Brad and Emily: Done.
- Reach out to my friends: Too hard to quantify (poor goal-setting on my part) but sure, done.
- Host Fakesgiving: Done.
- Color my hair: Done.
- Wear skirts more often: Also hard to quantify (compared to what?) but done.
- Purge my closet: Done.
- Create a new family tradition: Done.
- Figure out–and ideally resolve–my health issues: Ongoing, of course, but I’m in a good place now, so we’ll call it done.
- Learn to play something new on the piano: Nope.
- Learn to play the ukelele: Done. I’m not great, but that’ll come with time. I hope.
- Bake something new each month: Done.
- Sign up for and use a gym membership: Really really not.
- Have a photo shoot in the Guadalupe cemetery: Nope.
- Go to the open house, dedication, and do some work at the Gilbert LDS temple: Done.
- Attend a live performance (concert, play, opera, ballet, whatever): Nope. Alas.
- Find (and share) some new music: Found some, never shared. To be continued.
- Try five new-to-me restaurants: Done.
- Try five new-to-me foods: Done.
- Grow a more successful garden: We got a few carrots, which is more than we did last time, so…done.
- Finish all my outstanding yarn projects: Hahahahahaha….no.
- Remodel the kitchen: In progress, but nearly done.
- Move the girls into the pink room: Done, then undone.
- Find a new dresser for the girls: Done.
- Finish the master bedroom: Not even a little bit.
- Finish our family photo gallery wall: Done.
- Figure out a cleaning schedule: Nope nope nope.
- Hire someone to redesign my blog: It’s in the works, actually…
- Post a monthly “think piece”: Done? Sort of?
- Contribute regularly to Tipsaholic and The Beesley Project: I actually quit the first and flaked on the second. Womp womp.
Now that THAT is out of the way, on to the real talk.
I feel like a good portion of the goals I set for myself were things I didn’t actually care that much about. Many were things that I did (or was planning to do) already. Some fell victim to circumstance or lack of finance. Others weren’t very well thought out and not doing them was a better choice in the long run.
But here’s the thing that makes me furrow my brow: even though I checked off more goals than not, I really just don’t care that much. Why did I waste my mental energy on things that aren’t important to me? Blerg.
I realized sometime last fall that I had set goals for the sake of setting goals. I didn’t feel invested in quite a few of them. They were things I felt I should do but didn’t necessarily fit into my vision for myself, my family, my home, and my reality. Sure, I wish our kitchen remodel was finished, and I regret bailing on my Beesley people, but I don’t mind at all that I didn’t join a gym, practice the piano, or finally figure out how to clean my house on the regular. It is what it is, and I’m okay with that.
You may have noticed that I haven’t updated my list in quite a while, nor have I set new goals for this year. That’s because, as I mentioned at the first of the year, my–our–focus is changing around here. The ol’ blog will be going through a metamorphosis in the next little while, and I’m sooooo excited about it. 2015 is going to be a year of examining our priorities and recentering our lives and, hopefully, creating some really cool things!
Tomorrow I’ll be sharing more of what you can expect going forward. I hope you’ll stick around!